YOUTH GOAL PLANNER. PROMISED BLESSINGS OF PURITY. With this Planner, youth can search and ponder scriptures and goals. Then study and list PROMISED BLESSINGS of Being Sexually Clean and Pure. Also, state their Commitment to Be Chaste.
Great for Sunday School – Seminary – Youth Doctrinal Class, Youth Goal activity, and family night
YOUTH GOAL PLANNER
“Promised Blessings of Purity”
SEARCH & PONDER
Moroni 9:9
Jacob 2:28 (meaning and importance of chastity and virtue)
“The Family: A Proclamation to the World”
“Sexual Purity” in the For the Strength of Youth
(See “Your body is sacred” (HERE along with “Promised Blessings”)
Articles of Faith 1:13
(DOWNLOAD this scripture poster/card set shown right)
“We believe in being honest, true, chaste, benevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men; indeed, we may say that we follow the admonition of Paul—We believe all things, we hope all things, we have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things. If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.”
Proverbs 31:10-31
Click on the video below with children reciting this Articles of Faith 1:13 or click on the poster on the left (or HERE) to see a larger view).
Part 1
Promised Blessings of Being Sexually Clean and Pure
Go HERE to read about these PROMISED BLESSINGS:
• “Your respect for yourself and others will increase… .”
• “The Lord has promised great treasures of knowledge… .”
• “Living the law of chastity brings God’s approval and personal spiritual power… .”
“Celestial marriage is a pivotal part of preparation for eternal life. It requires one to be married to the right person, in the right place, by the right authority, and to obey that sacred covenant faithfully.”– Bruce R. McConkie
Older Children / Youth Goals
Part 2
My Commitment to Be Chaste
QUOTE (HERE): “Those who are chaste are morally clean in their thoughts, words, and actions. Chastity means not having any sexual relations before marriage. It also means complete fidelity to husband or wife during marriage. Physical intimacy between husband and wife is beautiful and sacred.“
By reviewing this CHASTITY overview, you will learn about what chastity is, sexual sins, keeping the Law of Chastity, Forgiveness for the Repentant, and more related topics, scriptures to read, and more (HERE)
“Unchastity is the great demon of the day. Like an octopus, it fastens its tentacles upon one.” – President Spencer W. Kimball, “The Law of Chastity”
The following activities are featured in the CAUTION: It’s a Jungle Out There! quicksand word find puzzle (above or HERE), or the BUY NOW button below.
MUTUAL NIGHT ACTIVITIES
IT’S A JUNGLE OUT THERE! QUICKSAND TRAPS: Set up a jungle scene with brown wrapping paper in the center to represent quicksand. Place a nice lounge chair with an umbrella with an intriguing drink on top of the quicksand. Take the youth through the jungle scene and end up focusing on the lounge chair scene. Tell them that below the chair is quicksand. They would naturally stay away from quicksand if they knew it was there. But Satan’s traps are often disguised by trees in the jungle or in our lives by attractive objects or words that entice. Talk about Satan’s quicksand traps to pull you under into looking at pornography, necking, petting, intimacy, and sex. If we put our toes in the quicksand, we are tempted to go further until our feet and legs are stuck, and soon we are sitting in the quicksand. Before we realize it, we are up to our necks in Satan’s trap.
Have the youth sit down and write questions on slips of paper and place them in a box. Talk about the questions and how to avoid quicksand traps.
Plan what to say in situations where it may be difficult to say no (e.g., at a party if alcohol is offered and we drink, we can then easily lose control – see video LEAVE THE PARTY).
Heavenly Father reads or knows our thoughts, but Satan does not have that power. Satan can only read our actions. If we give in a little, he tempts us further. Don’t give him control by letting go of your values.
CHASTITY TALK AND CHASTITY CHOICES: Bishops are very good at talking on this subject; so are their wives. Seminary teachers are also good resources. After a guest speaker, help the youth project themselves into the future with choices. Compare dating someone who chooses to be chaste and someone who does not. Talk about group dates and single dating. Even if you go on a group date (the others in the group need to be living by the gospel standards). Talk about the daily spiritual nourishment needed to help you make chaste choices.
Tell the story of Joseph resisting Potiphar’s wife, running from the temptation. See Genesis 39. See the picture and story (HERE).
VIDEO (see below): Spiritual Crocodiles – (2 Nephi 28) President Boyd K. Packer used this analogy in his April 1976 general conference address. Just as well-camouflaged crocodiles prey on unwary victims, Satan preys on unwary youth by using tactics that camouflage the deadly nature of sin.
VIDEO (see below): Chastity: What Are the Limits? – Latter-day Saint teens are counseled to stay sexually pure, but what exactly are the limits? Using the teachings of modern prophets, this presentation shows how we can find happiness and peace through staying chaste. (3:59)
The following activities are featured in the My BIG Dating Decisions poster (above or HERE), or the BUY NOW button below.
MUTUAL NIGHT ACTIVITIES
DATE FOR MR./MRS. RIGHT: Talk to youth about dating someone as if their dates would someday be on video for their future spouses. Tell them to date with the real purpose in mind (eternal marriage), to date as though their future posterity (children) were watching.
LIST PITFALLS TO AVOID Examples: single dates, being alone with the opposite sex, dating nonmembers, or someone who has different values. Observe how their date treats his mother (a reflection on how he will someday treat his wife). Observe how he feels about the Church, a mission, etc. Have young women ask themselves whether he is polite and considerate, what he likes to do with his time, etc.
IDEAL GIRL/WIFE SNEAK PREVIEW: Ahead of time (a week earlier), have the young men record (write about) their idea of the ideal girl or what they like and don’t like in a date or future spouse (not signing their name). Do the same for young men, asking the young women to write their ideal guy–future spouse characteristics.
REVIEW L.D.S. IDEAS ON DATING:
• Have girls/guys review some of these ahead of time and present the ideas to the group.
• Obtain videos, recordings, books, and articles on dating and future choices.
• Have a check-out system where youth can borrow these materials during the week.
• See Dating Ideas in the For the Strength of Youth: Virtue loveth virtue; light cleaveth unto light. Doctrine and Covenants 88:40
• IDEAS: Not Dating? You’re Not Alone – For Latter-day Saint teens, the modern dating scene can look complicated. Here are a few thoughts and tips to put things in perspective.
The following activities are featured in the Keys to Virtuous Choices voter-ballot (above or HERE), or the BUY NOW button below.
MUTUAL NIGHT ACTIVITIES
GUEST DATERS, DATING PANEL DISCUSSION: Invite youth at dating age from another ward or stake to come and talk about dating. Ask them to talk about moral dating choices and how to avoid intimate situations. Youth can prepare questions. Sample Questions:
~ How can someone show interest in you or discourage your interest before, during a date and after a date? See 1-3 as follows.
1. Before a Date: ~ If you were attracted to two different individuals, which would you choose to date and why? ~ What do you look for in someone you would like to date? ~ How can you spend less money on a date so you can afford to go out more often? ~ What ways should a girl or guy ask you for a date? ~ How do you like someone to flirt with you? ~ How can one flirt with you without appearing too bold? ~ How do you ask someone out without seeming overpowering? ~ What do you like or dislike about someone texting or calling you?
2. During a Date: ~ What should or shouldn’t your date wear? ~ How can you tell if someone you like or date has high standards? ~ How do you want your date to act with you? ~ How does one say no to a kiss and still show you they like you? ~ How can you and your date avoid physical advances? ~ What are ways your date can show they like you? ~ How can your date earn your respect? ~ What kinds of activities make dating fun? ~ What date activities help you to get to know your date better? ~ What do you look for in a longer dating relationship? ~ What do you like about your date’s personality and looks?
3. After a Date: ~ After the date, how would you like the girl/guy to show continued interest? ~ ~ What is the best way to discourage your date from asking you out again? ~ How can one hint or encourage romantic interest when you have only indicated friendship? ~ What are some ways one can suggest another date?
